Restoring a broken relationship

Restoring broken fellowship 
Relationships are always worth restoring 

“All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:”2 Corinthians‬ ‭5:18‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Relationships are always worth restoring 

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬
Be a peacemaker / not a troublemaker 
Jesus is a peacemaker ( between men and God ) 

 1. Talk to God first 
 - God can change your heart or the other person will change while you talk to God. 
 - David was being transparent with God 
 - God’s in control ( he’s able to turn it around ) 
 - “Why do you fight and argue among yourselves? Isn’t it because of your sinful desires? They fight within you. You want something, but you don’t have it. So you kill. You want what others have, but you can’t get what you want. So you argue and fight. You don’t have what you want, because you don’t ask God.”
‭‭James‬ ‭4:1-2‬ ‭NIRV‬‬

 2. Always take the initiative 
 - be the one who will start first 
 - “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you,”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5:23‬ ‭NIV‬‬

 - “leave your gift there in front of the altar. First, go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.” Matthew‬ ‭5:24‬ ‭NIV‬‬
 - time won’t heal it ( it will only get worse ) know the best time, moment

 3. Sympathize with their feeling 
 - listen to the feeling ( use your ears ) 

 4. Confess your part of the conflict 
 - “You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬
 - both have problems ( apologies, be the one who likes to take the blame ) 
 - fix your problem first 

 5. Attack the problem and not the person 
 - not personal, your tone, 
 - surrender, use the best word 
 - “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians‬ ‭4:29‬ ‭NIV‬‬

 6. Cooperate as much as possible